I read the BEST newsletter the other day. Now, all of those who know me, know I have very limited time to work on my hopes, dreams, and goals (and my beloved blogging)so if I am going to sit and read something, it better improve my noggin. There’s this great newsletter calledthedreamingcafe and Sandy had an awesome story this week about the “All Or Nothing Trap.”
“All or Nothing” means you won’t run the marathon cuz you don’t think you can win the race, so you sit on the couch and doing nothing. Gawd knows I have been guilty of that a time or two! (especially the “sit on the couch and do nothing” part).
We live in a society of “fast food” mentality. Everybody wants what they want in five minutes or less, or they’re pissed. We want to lose 20 pounds in a week even though it took us a year to gain it. So we pop diet pills and stop eating. We want to start a businesses, but leap with no net and not so much as one customer in our pocket. Then, the first month when nothing happens, we get mad and give up. “Wasn’t meant to be” we say and give up the dream.
I too have goals. But being the complete “non risk taker” person that I am. I move slow. RREEAALL slow. I am the tortoise in the Tortoise & The Hare fable. But that’s OK. Like in the fable, sometimes “slow and steady wins the race”. For me, it’s all about “steps”. Daily, I work on moving towards my goals in millimeters. I am OK with that because at least I’m moving forward. I know if I try to bite off too big of a chunk, I get overwhelmed. And frustrated. Then I am ineffective.
Some day I’d like to teach seminars and be a speaker. I love learning and would love to empower others to do the same. But I have one major hurdle…I am terrified of speaking in front of a group. So I joined a networking group of about 10 people. The first time I stood up to do my 30-second-commercial I was shaking so bad I could hardly speak. But I got over it. Then I joined a little bigger group. Now it’s getting easier and easier to stand in front of people. It’s all about baby steps sometimes. Who knows, in a year I you’ll see me teaching Community Ed or being a guest speaker somewhere. I’m slow, but I’ll get there!