The Trap of “Some Day” Thinking

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There is something that exists that I like to call “Someday Thinking.” Ambitious people with creative souls don’t mean to postpone their dreams; it just happens. Life moves fast, our relationship status can change (for better or worse) in the blink of an eye, and a loved one could suddenly get seriously ill. These real-life situations tend to crowd out dreams and goals.

Or maybe you’ve never had someone you love or respect take you by the shoulders and tell you, “you can do this! I believe in you!” I can tell you from experience that your dreams can often feel frivolous and silly if the people closest to you think you are being selfish and unrealistic.

That’s when the “Some Day” begins to creep into the crevices of our brain created by self-doubt and lack of support.

That’s when our dreams seem oh-so far away and our verbalizing turns from I’m going to be on the NYTimes Best Sellers List to maybe someday I’ll get to writing my book.

But here’s the rub; if we wait for “someday” to come, it never will. “Somedays” can slip through the cracks of our life and get lost in the To-Do Lists, childcare, and laundry piles. Life might be wild, crazy, filled with dog barf and meals that need to be cooked, but within 86,400 seconds of every day, there is a chance to do something…one thing…to move towards your dreams. We are the captains of our ships, the director of our movies, and the authors of our stories. We are mom bosses through and through.

Avoiding a “Some Day” Mindset

We need to set aside the time to nurture our seed of an idea a little every day until it takes root and starts to grow. If your dream is to write a book, then everyday (even if its for 15 minutes) make time to put pen to paper or your fingers on a keyboard.

We all have hopes, dreams, and aspirations but those dreams are indeed just that, a dream until the first step is made. Until some forward movement is taken, we are not doing, we are just hoping.

Only when we start to implement a plan does stuff start to get real. Without action, our “Some Day’s” never seem to evolve. I can tell you from experience that, unless you make today your someday, and your launch day/race day/first day of business, will never be realized. Then we move into excuse-making and come up with self-destructing “what if” scenarios that haven’t even happened yet. I can relate. I used to be able to worse-case-scenario every goal I had to the point where it stressed me out to even to attempt to move forward.

Here’s another point to ponder; a wise woman once told me (around 15 years ago when I was whining about how my goals still seemed so far out of reach) “Next year you will be 43. You can be 43 and moving towards a dream. Or be 43 and still living the same unsatisfying life. Either way, you’ll be 43. You make the choice which scenario you want.”

Life doesn’t have a reset button. Whether you are 20, 30, 40, or 90, chances are you still have that internal drive and desire to want more, to learn more and to experience more from life. You need to honor that voice and head and doing something to move forward in the direction of your dreams. Take the first step towards writing that book, building that business, planning that trip, or achieving a milestone.

Then take another. And another. Then repeat until completion.

You can do this! I believe in YOU!