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I read endless articles on what to do to make your blog uber-fantastic-best-thing-since-the invention-of-Uggs. ENDLESS. Really good articles on what NOT to do on blogs? A little harder to find. Then I read a profile on the SITS Girls blog.
By-the-way, if you haven’t seen their new look, I can sum it up in one word…SSSQQQUUEEEE!!! Freakin AMAZING. I have blog envy.
OK, that was many words. AnyWHoo.
They featured a blogger named LaDonna from iFrog. iFrog stands for “I Fully Rely on God”. Very cool. They asked her a question and her answer really hit home. I think it did so because unconsciously, this is how I operate with my blog. Good stuff.
SITS:What is the most important thing you learned through blogging?
LaDonna: As a blogger I have a certain amount of responsibility, I must blog with integrity. To me, that means that I need to not blog when I am angry. A blog should be more than a “venting” place to air all the things you can’t say or won’t say to someone face. If its on my blog I will, or have, said the same exact thing to your face. I won’t shred my family on my blog, that does not mean that all is peaceful in my life. It just means that I feel there is a time and place for everything; once something is release in the “wild” of cyber space there are no take backs, no do-over’s.
She nailed it.
I fully “get” and believe that (my blog anyway) is a place for ME. My thoughts, my words, my stories. I can write what I want, when I want and there’s no Editor telling me “I don’t like your angle”. I like pushing the envelope and bit and talking about things that other bloggers don’t. Goldfish disasters and yoga-carpet-sniffing come to mind. Some day I will even be brave enough to blog about head lice.
But for now, I admit NOTHING.
You don’t like what I write? That’s OK, just hit the “back” button, my friend.
HOWEVER, blogs should not be the supermarket rag of the Internet. As my Dad would say, “you don’t get where you want in life by stepping on the heads of others.”
There are no “do-overs” like LaDonna said. Don’t unleash your fury (in a hateful and slanderous way) on others on your www. Venting? Sure. We all do it. There is fine line between ripping someone to shreds and blogging frustration. And if you do miss the mark, well so be it. It will come back and bite you in the butt though.
I will quote my dad again, “Hateful bad-mouthing just makes YOU look like the a$$hole.”
Well said. Miss ya Dad.
And you should ever have the unfortunate instance to be on the recieving end of a Blogger Behaving Badly, my advice to you is…”Don’t Feed The Trolls”…and refer back to the a$$hole comment above.
What I’d like to know is, have you ever taken down one of your posts/stories because of complaints, upset readers, or just a bad gut feeling?